Camila Cabello on Why OCD is So Much More
Her recent conversation with Dax Shepard has me hopeful
Camila Cabello is on to something about OCD. In a recent interview with Dax Shepard on his Armchair Expert podcast, she confesses that her and her therapist:
"don't even call it OCD, we call it obsessionality..something about OCD is triggering for me for some reason."
Wait, a minute. Isn't this tone-deaf? Don't people suffer with OCD? Shouldn't Cabello embrace her diagnosis and the treatment that takes on average 14-17 years to find?
Not necessarily. Cabello is speaking to a more nuanced take.
OCD isn't only a relentless thief of time and headspace, it's part of your personality and identity too. Being so tuned-in, especially to fears, can be harrowing, but with OCD, you're aware of lots of other interesting things too.
OCD isn't just a foreign invader, it's also a part of your home country, and Cabello seems to get that.
But back to those other valuable qualities found within OCD. The person with OCD has an exquisitely imaginative and creative mind and a profoundly open and generous heart. It has something that many, like Cabello, don't want to easily give up. Nor should they!
I get the detractors of Cabello's statements. Is she minimizing OCD's pain or even glamourizing it? I doubt it.
I think Cabello sees the distinctions between the truly negative and problematic stuff within OCD, and embraces and leans into the positive and helpful aspects within it too. Since obsessionality is a part of her, she befriends it. She doesn't just pathologize it.
That's a complex and mature act of psychological integration, and I give credit to this 27-year-old singer for showcasing something massively helpful for those out there with OCD.
If you struggle with OCD, it's completely valid to see its negative sides and recognize that certain aspects are just a 'part of you.' It's also legitimate to see positive sides and strengths within your OCD while you notice the ways it can hurt you too.
There's no contradiction here; only wonderful nuance and complexity. It's a both/and position that might be even more freeing and helpful in your OCD recovery. And it's perfectly in line with Shepard's description of Armchair Expert as a podcast that 'celebrates the messiness of being human.'
Again, neither myself (nor I think Camilla Cabello) are saying that OCD doesn't hurt. Cabello is the first to recognize some of the 'textbook ways' she had OCD as a child, signalling that she gets the truly difficult sides of OCD.
Listen in on a greatest hits of her early OCD moments:
"Hug my parents for 11 seconds or else they'll die, pray to God then kiss your fingers or else you'll have cancer...I had one time where I didn't have my period for a year and then I thought I was like the Virgin Mary.. and then I'd pray every night for God to take away the new Jesus Christ that was being born in me."
Cabellos is able to stare down these issues and now laugh at them with the full perspective as OCD as something much bigger than just a disorder. Or as she sums it up:
"There are some things that don't fit into neatly labelled boxes. Sometimes, it is, you're just being obsessive, it's not necessarily obsessive-compulsive disorder (spoken in a robot voice)."
And perhaps embracing the hard-to-put-your-finger-on slipperiness of the OCD experience might teach us all more about the good, the bad, the ugly, and even the momentary beautiful found within and beyond the limits of the OCD label.
There's something so refreshing about celebrities speaking up about their conditions. Lele pons (more of an influencer) was the first person I saw who openly discussed her hidden conditions. It really opened up my eyes and introduced me to what would otherwise have been a hidden struggle.